All my life I've heard that arrogance and insecurity go hand in hand. It's hard to see it, though, because arrogance leads to behavior that looks quite self-confident.
Well, I'm no pyschoanalyst, but I have a petri dish of one life full of experiences and I've learned this. I can recognize horrible flaws in myself and be quite hard and honest with myself. But then I can turn around and be highly critical of other people.
This is particularly bad because my belief set, being a Christian, doesn't lend itself to criticism of others but to self-discipline, compassion and encouragement. So why, as notacynic has correctly pointed out, am I sometimes arrogant? That's a great question. Here are two possible answers (I hope you don't mind me having this conversation with myself).
First, the weaknesses I have are part of being only part-way on my journey. I've got certain strenghts and certain weaknesses and overcoming my flaws doesn't happen overnight - or apparently over 45 years. That's a little depressing.
Second, the weaknesses I have may be purposeful on God's part to keep me humble. When notacynic drops by to say that I was insulting and arrogant, I can see that he's right. And it's as clearly hypocritical as anything I could be. In fact, it would be better if I said nothing at all than to be proven a hypocrite. So I feel that remorse (blessed are those who mourn...) for what I recognize as pathetic behaviors. I'm not saying God makes me a hypocrite, just that he designed me as a being that requires forgiveness so that I can give forgiveness. If I were perfect, I'd really be a jerk (I'll pause and let you add your own thoughts here).
But there is one other thought. I'm not sure this isn't completely wrong. Let me start with that. But I wonder if part of the Christian walk isn't stumbling and failing. And that because the world needs to believe in Christ because of Christ and not because of me. If people believed because of me, they might follow me. But no one who knows me would follow me. And yet, when they see the contriteness and the striving for the truth and for right behavior (the law is summed up in these words, do to others as you would have them do to you) then maybe they can understand that all Christians are foolish, weak sinners who believe in a righteous God and are strugglng to empty themselves of self and fill themselves with His Spirit of righteousness. And so, anyone who sees can easily recognize their own worthiness to attain the same thing. It's not "top of the mountain" completeness that I'll ever attain, it's continual struggling to put off bad thoughts, desires, behaviors and the stuggle to let God live in me - demonstrated by love ("they will know we are Christians by our love", "so that your good works may be seen that men may glorify God").
So is my public weakness a part of my testimony of God's righteousness? Maybe as long as I struggle to do what's right and to be more like Him.
Hmmm.
sharp